Quiz: Determine Your Level of Relationship Satisfaction
SATISFACTION SCALE: How satisfied are you with each of these aspects of your relationship?
5: Enthusiastic—it couldn’t be any better 4: Quite satisfied 3: It’s all right, I guess—I can’t complain 2: A little disappointed—it could be better 1: Really disappointed—not what I expected
IMPORTANCE SCALE: How important to your relationship is each of these?
6: Absolutely essential 5: Extremely important 4: Very important 3: Moderately important 2: Slightly important 1: Not at all important
- Opportunity to raise children
- Enjoying sexual relations with mate
- Understanding by partner of your problems and feelings
- Standard of living
- Finding sex with your partner to be exciting
- Expressions of love and affection by your partner
- Household tasks which are done by partner
- Having sexual relations as often as desired
- Companionship/doing things with partner
- Having sexual relations bound up with love and affection
- Having fun with partner
- Romantic experiences with partner
- Being respected by partner
- Having similar interests with partner
- Being in love with partner
- Self-confidence or self-esteem enhanced by partner
The Importance Scale will spotlight your satisfaction with the aspects of a relationship you value the most. To determine your score, find the questions for which your individual Importance answers were was 4, 5 or 6, and add together the Satisfaction scores for those items.
(A) Total Satisfaction score for high-importance responses: _____
(B) Count up how many of your Importance scores were a 4 or higher. Total ____
Now divide the number in (A) by the number in (B). The answer should be between one and five. The higher the number, the happier and more satisfied you will feel with the areas of your relationship that are most important to you.
Compare your most important items with those of your partner. Identifying the items of greatest importance can guide you both to those aspects of your relationship that need attention.
Source: “The Love Test” by Rutter and Schwartz (Perigee).